Expertise point of view toward the consequences of marriage

Introduction
Marriage is a social and cultural matter and in spite of the fact that it has been permanent in its nature, it has been highly influenced by new conditions available in the society. Hence, according to the conditions of the society and the conditions of time, it is a necessary and inevitable matter. What has made marriage in temporary era different from marriage in past time is the scope of developments in marriage. As a consequence, a lot of changes have happened in social and cultural structures. There is no question that social new structures have created new conditions and necessities for marriage and has caused clear distinction between ways and structures of marriage in the traditional and new society.

Point of view toward marriage as ” social reality” influenced by culture is a role and a situation that we are dealing with. According to the point of view sociology, ” reality never tells us what it is, but persons should interpret reality as it is and the interpretation starts with culture that we apply for our guidance in spite of the fact that culture results from our groups and society”. Hence, the point of view of a person toward marriage depends on culture that he or she belongs to and depends on his or her position and situation in the society. In other words, some beliefs of a person results from culture and society that he or she lives such as being woman or man. For example, the reality of being a woman means ” thinking like a woman”. In other words, we believe that emotion, grace, patience, endurance, forgiveness, housekeeping and babysitting are the manners of a good and satisfactory life. Being a man means ” thinking like a man”. In other words, we believe that making money, the guarding a family, the feeling of lack of existence and trying for meeting expenses and social validity are considered as the necessity of a good and happy life.

The preservation of the religion is the acceptance of the devotion of human and the establishment of affection and mercy. A marriage with religious and Islamic support can be effective in the prevention of spiritual disorders of persons in the society. Of course, lack of the establishment of culture of foundations related to the promotion of easy marriage of coming problems is to implement this idea. Hence, the following questions should be answered in this research:

What are the cultural and social consequences that result from marriage?
What solutions can we present in order to decrease negative cultural and social consequences and to increase positive points of marriage?

1. The conception of marriage
Marriage is a marital contract in the tradition and the religion and according to it, there are moral and rights commitments for men and women toward each other and violating them will have torture and punishment. In each religion, marriage is done with special regulations and rules and the Islam has respected the rules and customs of other nations. In Quran, marriage has interpreted as ” Nekah” and has been used in two meanings ” the need of spirit to the club of comfort” and the meeting of sexual needs”. Of course, the first meaning is more important than second meaning. A decent spouse shows the way of achieving comfort and happiness in the events of the life.

2. The purposes and results of marriage
There are important results about marriage and Quran has expressed them in verses. In some cases, although a man and a woman should live together, purposes that should be applied in their life are removed and couples live together without using marital life. Some have said that when there are the signs of friendship in the world or the afterlife, Quran has used the word ” duality”;

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

”And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”.

”وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا”

”And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous”.

”ادْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ أَنتُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ تُحْبَرُونَ”

”Enter ye the Garden, ye and your wives, in (beauty and) rejoicing”.

”وَبَشِّرِ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أَنَّ لَهُمْ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ ۖ كُلَّمَا رُزِقُوا مِنْهَا مِن ثَمَرَةٍ رِّزْقًا ۙ قَالُوا هَٰذَا الَّذِي رُزِقْنَا مِن قَبْلُ ۖ وَأُتُوا بِهِ مُتَشَابِهًا ۖ وَلَهُمْ فِيهَا أَزْوَاجٌ مُّطَهَّرَةٌ ۖ وَهُمْ فِيهَا خَالِدُونَ”

But give glad tidings to those who believe and work righteousness, that their portion is Gardens, beneath which rivers flow. Every time they are fed with fruits therefrom, they say: “Why, this is what we were fed with before,” for they are given things in similitude; and they have therein companions pure (and holy); and they abide therein (for ever)”.

” هُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُهُمْ فِي ظِلَالٍ عَلَى الْأَرَائِكِ مُتَّكِئُونَ”

”They and their associates will be in groves of (cool) shade, reclining on Thrones (of dignity)”.
When there are these signs refer to animosity, betrayal or difference between the opinion of a woman and a man, Quran has used the word ” Amarah”;

”وَقَالَ نِسْوَةٌ فِي الْمَدِينَةِ امْرَأَتُ الْعَزِيزِ تُرَاوِدُ فَتَاهَا عَن نَّفْسِهِ ۖ قَدْ شَغَفَهَا حُبًّا ۖ إِنَّا لَنَرَاهَا فِي ضَلَالٍ مُّبِينٍ”

”Ladies said in the City: “The wife of the (great) ´Aziz is seeking to seduce her slave from his (true) self: Truly hath he inspired her with violent love: we see she is evidently going astray”.

”ضَرَبَ اللَّهُ مَثَلًا لِّلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا امْرَأَتَ نُوحٍ وَامْرَأَتَ لُوطٍ ۖ كَانَتَا تَحْتَ عَبْدَيْنِ مِنْ عِبَادِنَا صَالِحَيْنِ فَخَانَتَاهُمَا فَلَمْ يُغْنِيَا عَنْهُمَا مِنَ اللَّهِ شَيْئًا وَقِيلَ ادْخُلَا النَّارَ مَعَ الدَّاخِلِينَ”

”Allah sets forth, for an example to the Unbelievers, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lut: they were (respectively) under two of our righteous servants, but they were false to their (husbands), and they profited nothing before Allah on their account, but were told: “Enter ye the Fire along with (others) that enter!”.

”وَضَرَبَ اللَّهُ مَثَلًا لِّلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا امْرَأَتَ فِرْعَوْنَ إِذْ قَالَتْ رَبِّ ابْنِ لِي عِندَكَ بَيْتًا فِي الْجَنَّةِ وَنَجِّنِي مِن فِرْعَوْنَ وَعَمَلِهِ وَنَجِّنِي مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ”

”And Allah sets forth, as an example to those who believe the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: “O my Lord! Build for me, in nearness to Thee, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings, and save me from those that do wrong”.
When the wisdom of duality (the survival of the generation of human) is ignored, Quran has used the word ” Amrah”;

”إِذْ دَخَلُوا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالُوا سَلَامًا ۖ قَالَ سَلَامٌ قَوْمٌ مُّنكَرُونَ”

”Behold, they entered his presence, and said: “Peace!” He said, “Peace!” (and thought, “These seem) unusual people”.

”قَالَ رَبِّ إِنِّي وَهَنَ الْعَظْمُ مِنِّي وَاشْتَعَلَ الرَّأْسُ شَيْبًا وَلَمْ أَكُن بِدُعَائِكَ رَبِّ شَقِيًّا”

”Praying: “O my Lord! infirm indeed are my bones, and the hair of my head doth glisten with grey: but never am I unblest, O my Lord, in my prayer to Thee!”

”قَالَ رَبِّ أَنَّىٰ يَكُونُ لِي غُلَامٌ وَقَدْ بَلَغَنِيَ الْكِبَرُ وَامْرَأَتِي عَاقِرٌ ۖ قَالَ كَذَٰلِكَ اللَّهُ يَفْعَلُ مَا يَشَاءُ”

”He said: “O my Lord! How shall I have son, seeing I am very old, and my wife is barren?” “Thus,” was the answer, “Doth Allah accomplish what He willet”.
Zakaria addresses God that my spouse is barren;

”قَالَ رَبِّ أَنَّىٰ يَكُونُ لِي غُلَامٌ وَقَدْ بَلَغَنِيَ الْكِبَرُ وَامْرَأَتِي عَاقِرٌ ۖ قَالَ كَذَٰلِكَ اللَّهُ يَفْعَلُ مَا يَشَاءُ”

”He said: “O my Lord! How shall I have son, seeing I am very old, and my wife is barren?” “Thus,” was the answer, “Doth Allah accomplish what He willeth”.
When his prayer is accepted, Quran states

« وَأَصْلَحْنَا لَهُ زَوْجَهُ »

2-1-The preservation of ancestry
Marriage and the observation of its regulations preserve ancestry. In the Islam, the preservation of ancestry is basic of a lot of rules and rights. Some of jurisprudence rules depend on the recognition of relationship of child with parents or the recognition of other relatives relationships. The preservation of ancestry is considered as the wisdom of eddeh of a woman between two marriages. A woman should wait for fourteen months and ten days so that she can get married after the death of her husband;

”وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنفُسِهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا ۖ فَإِذَا بَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا فَعَلْنَ فِي أَنفُسِهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرٌ”

”If any of you die and leave widows behind, they shall wait concerning themselves four months and ten days: When they have fulfilled their term, there is no blame on you if they dispose of themselves in a just and reasonable manner. And Allah is well acquainted with what ye do”.
The eddeh of a woman after divorce is as long as three times of ablution;

”وَالْمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنفُسِهِنَّ ثَلَاثَةَ قُرُوءٍ ۚ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَهُنَّ أَن يَكْتُمْنَ مَا خَلَقَ اللَّهُ فِي أَرْحَامِهِنَّ إِن كُنَّ يُؤْمِنَّ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ ۚ وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُوا إِصْلَاحًا ۚ وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ ۚ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ ”

”Divorced women shall wait concerning themselves for three monthly periods. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise”.

A pregnant woman should wait until she bores her child so that she can get married again;

”وَاللَّائِي يَئِسْنَ مِنَ الْمَحِيضِ مِن نِّسَائِكُمْ إِنِ ارْتَبْتُمْ فَعِدَّتُهُنَّ ثَلَاثَةُ أَشْهُرٍ وَاللَّائِي لَمْ يَحِضْنَ ۚ وَأُولَاتُ الْأَحْمَالِ أَجَلُهُنَّ أَن يَضَعْنَ حَمْلَهُنَّ ۚ وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِ يُسْرًا”

”Such of your women as have passed the age of monthly courses, for them the prescribed period, if ye have any doubts, is three months, and for those who have no courses (it is the same): for those who carry (life within their wombs), their period is until they deliver their burdens: and for those who fear Allah, He will make their path easy”.
All of these regulations represent the preservation of ancestry. The respect of marrying a married woman and ancestry is based on the wisdom of the preservation of ancestry;

”وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۖ كِتَابَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ ۚ وَأُحِلَّ لَكُم مَّا وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَن تَبْتَغُوا بِأَمْوَالِكُم مُّحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ ۚ فَمَا اسْتَمْتَعْتُم بِهِ مِنْهُنَّ فَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً ۚ وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا تَرَاضَيْتُم بِهِ مِن بَعْدِ الْفَرِيضَةِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا”

”Also (prohibited are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess: Thus hath Allah ordained (Prohibitions) against you: Except for these, all others are lawful, provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your property,- desiring chastity, not lust, seeing that ye derive benefit from them, give them their dowers (at least) as prescribed; but if, after a dower is prescribed, agree Mutually (to vary it), there is no blame on you, and Allah is All-knowing, All-wise”.

”وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا”

”Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)”.

2-2-Having comfort
The need of soul to comfort is more important than sexual need. Decent spouse shows the ways of achieving comfort and happiness in the events of the life;

” وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ ”

” And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”.

”وَجَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا لِيَسْكُنَ إِلَيْهَا …”

Some interpreters have considered the purpose of clothes in Baqarah Surah verse 187 relaxation and comfort as God has considered night as clothes (the cause of relaxation and comfort);

”وَجَعَلْنَا اللَّيْلَ لِبَاسًا”

”And made the night as a covering”.

”حِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ”

”Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. Allah knoweth what ye used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with them, and seek what Allah Hath ordained for you, and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears; but do not associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques. Those are Limits (set by) Allah: Approach not nigh thereto. Thus doth Allah make clear His Signs to men: that they may learn self-restraint”.

The above verses also refer to comfort and relaxation that are gained from marriage.
One of essential constructions of the community is marriage and the formation of the community. In this social elementary unit, the stone of education construction is founded and human achieves comfort and evolution in the area of marriage.

2-3-The preservation of the kind of human
According to the statement of Quran, marriage is the means of the production and survival of generation in human and animal;

”فَاطِرُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ ۚ جَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا وَمِنَ الْأَنْعَامِ أَزْوَاجًا ۖ يَذْرَؤُكُمْ فِيهِ ۚ لَيْسَ كَمِثْلِهِ شَيْءٌ ۖ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْبَصِيرُ”

(”(He is) the Creator of the heavens and the earth: He has made for you pairs from among yourselves, and pairs among cattle: by this means does He multiply you: there is nothing whatever like unto Him, and He is the One that hears and sees (all things)”.
In spite of the fact the above verse expresses the production of human generation, there is no distinction among human, animals and plants. God states in another verse;

”يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا”

”O mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, His mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah, through whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (That bore you): for Allah ever watches over you ”.
God states

”وَاللَّهُ جَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا وَجَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَزْوَاجِكُم بَنِينَ وَحَفَدَةً وَرَزَقَكُم مِّنَ الطَّيِّبَاتِ ۚ أَفَبِالْبَاطِلِ يُؤْمِنُونَ وَبِنِعْمَتِ اللَّهِ هُمْ يَكْفُرُونَ”

”And Allah has made for you mates (and companions) of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best: will they then believe in vain things, and be ungrateful for Allah´s favors?”

Quran believes that the survival of generation of human and civil society depend on marriage and considers adultery the barrier of the survival of generation because with the promotion of illegitimate ways, tendency to marriage decreases, its attraction decreases and only the shoulder of the provision of house and giving birth to children and training them. As a consequence, the easiest ways of satisfying sexual desires is through illegitimate way and the purpose of the survival of generation is removed;

”وَلاَ تَقْرَبُواْ الزِّنَى إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلاً”

”Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)”.

”ئِنَّكُمْ لَتَأْتُونَ الرِّجَالَ وَتَقْطَعُونَ السَّبِيلَ وَتَأْتُونَ فِي نَادِيكُمُ الْمُنكَرَ ۖ فَمَا كَانَ جَوَابَ قَوْمِهِ إِلَّا أَن قَالُوا ائْتِنَا بِعَذَابِ اللَّهِ إِن كُنتَ مِنَ الصَّادِقِينَ”

”Do ye indeed approach men, and cut off the highway?- and practise wickedness (even) in your councils?” But his people gave no answer but this: they said: “Bring us the Wrath of Allah if thou tellest the truth”.
4-2- Having righteous persons

One of natural instincts of human is the need of becoming a father and a mother. Answering this need is met with marriage and having children because the basis of production is impossible through illegitimate ways, but a generation with ancestry is created. Quran mentions child the decoration of the life in the world and it represents it as the desire of human for having children and the preservation of relationship between children and parents;

”الْمَالُ وَالْبَنُونَ زِينَةُ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا ۖ وَالْبَاقِيَاتُ الصَّالِحَاتُ خَيْرٌ عِندَ رَبِّكَ ثَوَابًا وَخَيْرٌ أَمَلًا”

”Wealth and sons are allurements of the life of this world: But the things that endure, good deeds, are best in the sight of thy Lord, as rewards, and best as (the foundation for) hopes”.
Having children as the result of marriage has been mentioned with different interpretations in Quran.
God states in Quran

”نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ ۖ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنفُسِكُمْ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُم مُّلَاقُوهُ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ”

”Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe”.

Quran reminds that you should try to use such a chance and try to leave good effects from yourself with training righteous and decent children that will be useful for your religion and world.
After God talks about sexual intercourse, he states in Quran

” أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ ”

”Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. Allah knoweth what ye used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with them, and seek what Allah Hath ordained for you, and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears; but do not associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques. Those are Limits (set by) Allah: Approach not nigh thereto. Thus doth Allah make clear His Signs to men: that they may learn self-restraint”.
The purpose of the above verse is to want children in the opinion of most of persons.
In different cases in Quran, God has emphasized on having righteous children. God narrates from parents in Quran that if they have righteous persons, they will be grateful;

هُوَ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَجَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا لِيَسْكُنَ إِلَيْهَا ۖ فَلَمَّا تَغَشَّاهَا حَمَلَتْ حَمْلًا خَفِيفًا فَمَرَّتْ بِهِ ۖ فَلَمَّا أَثْقَلَت دَّعَوَا اللَّهَ رَبَّهُمَا لَئِنْ آتَيْتَنَا صَالِحًا لَّنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الشَّاكِرِينَ

”It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her (in love). When they are united, she bears a light burden and carries it about (unnoticed). When she grows heavy, they both pray to Allah their Lord, (saying): “If Thou givest us a goodly child, we vow we shall (ever) be grateful”.
In several verses in Quran, Hazrat Zakaria (peace be upon him) has wanted God a child that is qualified to be his successor and his child is satisfied by God ;

” وَإِنِّي خِفْتُ الْمَوَالِيَ مِن وَرَائِي وَكَانَتِ امْرَأَتِي عَاقِرًا فَهَبْ لِي مِن لَّدُنكَ وَلِيًّا”
”Now I fear (what) my relatives (and colleagues) (will do) after me: but my wife is barren: so give me an heir as from Thyself”.

”يَرِثُنِي وَيَرِثُ مِنْ آلِ يَعْقُوبَ ۖ وَاجْعَلْهُ رَبِّ رَضِيًّا”
(”One that) will (truly) represent me, and represent the posterity of Jacob; and make him, O my Lord! One with whom Thou art well-pleased”.

After he expresses virtues of Hazrat Maryam, he summons God ” O’ God! Grant me an immaculate child”. … ”هَبْ لِي مِن لَّدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاء”

5-2-Friendship and mercy
Other results of marriage is friendship and mercy;

”وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ”

”And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”.
What establishes friendship and mercy at the beginning of marital life between a wife and husband and its effect appears practically is friendship. But after times elapses and the age of oldness and weakness reaches, mercy is replaced with friendship. According to the interpretation of Quran, mercy and friendship are considered as two sings of divine and the certain guarantees of life underlying and the consistency of unity. Of course, mercy has a role at the beginning of the life. Sometimes, efforts and services are presented selflessly without any expectations even with cold reaction from opposite side. In such a situation, the natural need of becoming parents is mentioned for the preservation of family system from the desires of human and meeting these needs is provided with getting married and having children.
6-2 The satisfaction of sexual desire
Sexual desire is a force that is within women and men and marriage is a permitted way for its satisfaction and answering this instinct that is created by God;

”وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ”

”Who abstain from sex? Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess,- for (in their case) they are free from blame”.
It has been expressed in a Hadith ” the enjoyment of sexual intercourse is the best among physical and material enjoyments in the world and doomsday”.
God states in Quran ” interest in woman is prior to all of lusts”;

”زُيِّنَ لِلنَّاسِ حُبُّ الشَّهَوَاتِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ وَالْبَنِينَ وَالْقَنَاطِيرِ الْمُقَنطَرَةِ مِنَ الذَّهَبِ وَالْفِضَّةِ وَالْخَيْلِ الْمُسَوَّمَةِ وَالْأَنْعَامِ وَالْحَرْثِ ۗ ذَٰلِكَ مَتَاعُ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا ۖ وَاللَّهُ عِندَهُ حُسْنُ الْمَآبِ”

”Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: Women and sons; Heaped-up hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this world´s life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals (To return to)”.
God states in Quran

”أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ”

”Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. Allah knoweth what ye used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with them, and seek what Allah Hath ordained for you, and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears; but do not associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques. Those are Limits (set by) Allah: Approach not nigh thereto. Thus doth Allah make clear His Signs to men: that they may learn self-restraint”.
This verse refers to sexual desire and in spite of the fact it is prohibited according to the religion, people are fascinated in it. Of course, this affair cannot be main motivation and ultimate goal in marriage because sexual desire in women and men have limited time and if the purpose of marriage is that couples should leave each other in the time of sexual inability, they should never have marital contract.
7-2- The avoidance of sin
One of the results of marriage for women and men is the establishment of the ground of piety and the avoidance of sins. When sexual desire is satisfied in women and men, the ground of sins related to lust is prevented. According to Quran, a person that has got married is interpreted as ” Mohasen and Mohasane”;

”وَمَن لَّمْ يَسْتَطِعْ مِنكُمْ طَوْلًا أَن يَنكِحَ الْمُحْصَنَاتِ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ فَمِن مَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُم مِّن فَتَيَاتِكُمُ الْمُؤْمِنَاتِ ۚ وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَانِكُم ۚ بَعْضُكُم مِّن بَعْضٍ ۚ فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ ۚ فَإِذَا أُحْصِنَّ فَإِنْ أَتَيْنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ فَعَلَيْهِنَّ نِصْفُ مَا عَلَى الْمُحْصَنَاتِ مِنَ الْعَذَابِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِيَ الْعَنَتَ مِنكُمْ ۚ وَأَن تَصْبِرُوا خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ”

”If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hands possess: And Allah hath full knowledge about your faith. Ye are one from another: Wed them with the leave of their owners, and give them their dowers, according to what is reasonable: They should be chaste, not lustful, nor taking paramours: when they are taken in wedlock, if they fall into shame, their punishment is half that for free women. This (permission) is for those among you who fear sin; but it is better for you that ye practise self-restraint. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful”.
Therefore, when women and men get married, they are in a firm trench and preserve themselves so that lust desires have no effect on them. Marriage eradicated the ground of other sins because the acceptance of the responsibility of training children and meeting their needs makes a person use his life in a useful way and there will be no chance for committing sins and deviating socializing. The prophet (peace of Allah be upon him and his descendants) states

”من تزوج فقد احرز نصف دينه”

” The half of the religion is completed with marriage”.
It has been expressed in another religion ” the worst people are persons that are single”. Some dignitaries have said about the interpretation of Baqarah Surah

”أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ”

”Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. Allah knoweth what ye used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with them, and seek what Allah Hath ordained for you, and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears; but do not associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques. Those are Limits (set by) Allah: Approach not nigh thereto. Thus doth Allah make clear His Signs to men: that they may learn self-restraint”.
” as a person preserves himself or herself from cold and hot weather, serious harms and insects, when they get married , they prevent each other from the committing sins. The wisdom of marriage has been expressed in Quran in this way;

”يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ أَن يُخَفِّفَ عَنكُمْ ۚ وَخُلِقَ الْإِنسَانُ ضَعِيفًا”

”Allah doth wish to lighten your (difficulties): For man was created Weak (in flesh)”. )
Following sexual desires and committing sins will have tortures for human and marriage and the provision of its possibility prevents from sins and corruptions and persons can get rid of its consequences and this is considered as a kind of development for human.
8-2- The increase of daily bread

The worry of poverty is one of excuses that is presented in order to avoid getting married. Quran makes persons hopeful
to marriage in this way:

”وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ”

”Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all and he knoweth all things”.

Some have said that the promise of God for wealth and needlessness for persons that get married. Some narrations have confirmed this meaning. One of the results of marriage for men and women is the establishment of piety and the avoidance of sins. Imam Sadeq (peace be upon him) has considered the leaving of marriage due to fear from hunger as suspicion to God because after God has promised the increase of daily bread for marriage, worry in this area is considered as suspicion toward God. Since after some persons in the society get married, they not only get rich, but they also become poor, if this verse guarantees the promise of God, the promise of God will be broken and it is vulgar. Some believe that the promise of God in this verse is considered as the province of God in destiny. Therefore, after they get married, God will make them needless if God wills. As God states in Quran

”يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّمَا الْمُشْرِكُونَ نَجَسٌ فَلَا يَقْرَبُوا الْمَسْجِدَ الْحَرَامَ بَعْدَ عَامِهِمْ هَٰذَا ۚ وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ عَيْلَةً فَسَوْفَ يُغْنِيكُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ إِن شَاءَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ”

”O ye who believe! Truly the Pagans are unclean; so let them not, after this year of theirs, approach the Sacred Mosque. And if ye fear poverty, soon will Allah enrich you, if He wills, out of His bounty, for Allah is All-knowing, All-wise”.
There is a doubt that as the food and needleless of married persons depend on the province of God, the food and needle less of single persons that have no spouse depend on the province of God as well. Therefore, it cannot be a promise that God has given for marriage because as married persons are divided into groups of the rich and the poor, they are true about single persons. Such a promise has been expressed about single persons in Quran

”وَإِن يَتَفَرَّقَا يُغْنِ اللّهُ كُلاًّ مِّن سَعَتِهِ”

”But if they disagree (and must part), Allah will provide abundance for all from His all-reaching bounty”.
If there is a situation that a wife and a husband cannot live together and get divorced, God will make both of them needless with his mercy. The answer of this doubt is that most of persons fancy that marriage lead to poverty and lack of marriage lead to wealth. This verse tries to eradicate such a fancy and makes us understand that sometimes, marriage leads to abundance in the property of human and sometimes, however much a person tries will no progress in his income. Moreover, the acceptance of meeting the needs of spouse and children will make a lot of responsibilities for him.

”وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ”

”Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things”.
Hence, the above verse expresses that sometimes poverty can be removed with marriage, but it does not mean that marriage can always remove poverty; otherwise, this verse can be in contrast with the following verse

”وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَالَّذِينَ يَبْتَغُونَ الْكِتَابَ مِمَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ فَكَاتِبُوهُمْ إِنْ عَلِمْتُمْ فِيهِمْ خَيْرًا ۖ وَآتُوهُم مِّن مَّالِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي آتَاكُمْ ۚ وَلَا تُكْرِهُوا فَتَيَاتِكُمْ عَلَى الْبِغَاءِ إِنْ أَرَدْنَ تَحَصُّنًا لِّتَبْتَغُوا عَرَضَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا ۚ وَمَن يُكْرِههُّنَّ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ مِن بَعْدِ إِكْرَاهِهِنَّ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ”

”Let those who find not the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah gives them means out of His grace. And if any of your slaves ask for a deed in writing (to enable them to earn their freedom for a certain sum), give them such a deed if ye know any good in them: yea, give them something yourselves out of the means which Allah has given to you. But force not your maids to prostitution when they desire chastity, in order that ye may make a gain in the goods of this life. But if anyone compels them, yet, after such compulsion, is Allah, Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful (to them)”.
Razi believes that the following is not true about the rank of divine promise, but the content of the verse is that fear from poverty should not prevent from marriage because wealth is transient and what has value and survival is the benevolence of God that is better than the accumulation of wealth that we should look for;

قُلْ بِفَضْلِ اللّهِ وَبِرَحْمَتِهِ فَبِذَلِكَ فَلْيَفْرَحُواْ هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِّمَّا يَجْمَعُونَ

”Say: “In the bounty of Allah. And in His Mercy,- in that let them rejoice”: that is better than the (wealth) they hoard”.

3. Marriage and its importance in the Islam
In Moein Dictionary, ” marriage is a right relationship for a certain time or all of time and it allows them to have sexual intercourse with each other”. In another definition, ” marriage and marital life is a contractual natural phenomenon. Moreover, some consider marriage a process of mutual reaction between a woman and a man, dramatic reaction between culture (social regulations) and nature (sexual attraction) and permanent relationship between two persons from different genders that can have sexual intercourse within legal and formal framework.
In another definition, marriage is as social foundation and club from three sources of regulations, social beliefs and religious beliefs and it includes six points:

1. Marriage is free personal selection that is based on love.
2. Maturity and independence are certain need for marriage.
3. Marriage is a relationship between two persons from different genders.
4. In a marital life, a man is the guardian of a family and he is responsible to meet the needs of his family and to keep his family.
5. Faithfulness to a person is the expectations of a marriage.

6. Naturally, marriage is accompanied with the birth of children.
Moreover, a lot of verses summon Muslims to Muslims to spouse selection and marriage in any conditions. A lot of narrations emphasize on this relationship. Even Imam Sadeq (peace be upon him) states ” leaving marriage from the fear of poverty is suspicion toward great God”. Marriage is as important as God states

وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ

” Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things”.
He also states in another verse

”وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ”

”And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”.
God introduces legitimate relationship between women and men as his sings and considers it as comfort for both of them. Comfort and satisfying sexual desire is possible through legitimate way and this legitimate way is marriage and it is an answer to natural need.

Islamic trains emphasize on the above points in marriage. Islam considers marriage a contract with special conditions and has determined more conditions for Muslims in marriage in comparing to other nations and religions in spite of the fact that Islam accepts the marriage of other cultures within its own format. The second point is the consolidation of this contract. In Quran, marriage is mentioned as ” firm contract”. Sentences that are said in the time of marriage by couples represent the permanence of this relationship. Some of these sentences are taken from the text of Quran and they are based on this principle that husbands and wives should continue their marital lives in an appropriate and desirable way if they want to get separated, they should be with each other with good behaviors;

”وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ ۚ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًا لِّتَعْتَدُوا ۚ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ ۚ وَلَا تَتَّخِذُوا آيَاتِ اللَّهِ هُزُوًا ۚ وَاذْكُرُوا نِعْمَتَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ وَمَا أَنزَلَ عَلَيْكُم مِّنَ الْكِتَابِ وَالْحِكْمَةِ يَعِظُكُم بِهِ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمٌ”

”When ye divorce women, and they fulfil the term of their (´Iddat), either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; but do not take them back to injure them, (or) to take undue advantage; if any one does that; He wrongs his own soul. Do not treat Allah´s Signs as a jest, but solemnly rehearse Allah´s favours on you, and the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom, for your instruction. And fear Allah, and know that Allah is well acquainted with all things”.

However, marital contract is the firmest social contract that results from friendship and mutual friendship between a wife and a husband that Quran has referred to it;

”وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُون ”

”And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”.
This friendship is the strongest affair that a person has trusted and he or she leaves his or her father, mother, sister and brother and accepts to live with a person that he or she has no blood relationship and shares his or her comfort and difficulty. One of important signs of God in the creation of human is psychological aspect in the inner of women and men and they accept that they get separated from their relatives and select an unfamiliar person as their spouse so that they can be the cause of the comfort of each other and their friendly relationship becomes deeper than other relationships.
It seems that a man and a woman will accept to get married together if they make sure about the depth of this relationship and the satisfactory of this relationship.

4. The role of faith and morals in the foundation of family
Family is a social small unit that starts when a woman and a man get married together with the marriage contract of a woman and a man and it develops and consolidates with the production of children. Large societies include such small units. From the beginning of the world, human has selected family life as the best kind of the life and has been loyal to it in all times and places.

This kind of the life is considered as the benefits of human and it includes a lot of rules. For example, it saves human from lack of purpose, stress and loitering and makes him or her encouraged and dependent in family. They will have children in warm and friendly club of family. Bringing up children and making friendly relationship with them are the best enjoyments of the life.

The Islam emphasizes on two affairs for the implementation of the purposes of the marriage and the consolidation of family foundation: one of them is faith in God and the other one is morals. It is recommended to persons that want to get married consider the religion and faith of their spouse. A man came to the messenger of God (peace of Allah be upon him and his descendants) and consulted with him about marriage, he stated ” marry religious women so that you can get a lot of benefits”.

Ali Bin Musa Al-Reza (peace be upon him) stated ” the best benefit is gained from a righteous and decent woman; a woman that makes her husband satisfied and takes care of her children and the properties of her wife when her wife is not”.
The messenger of God (peace of Allah be upon him and his descendants) stated ” if a man proposes marriage to your daughter and like his religion and morals, you should accept his proposal; otherwise, great corruption and riot will be created on the earth”.

Moral values are the best means for good relationship between a wife and a husband, the consolidation of family foundation, prevention from family disagreements and the occurrence of divorce and there are a lot of recommendations about it.

Islam considers marriage a holy contract between a woman and a man and its most important purpose is the provision of human needs, relaxation, comfort and the affection of women and men toward each other. Even sexual enjoyments and the production and fostering of children are considered as the provision of superb purpose.
Quran expresses about this matter

”وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُون ”

”And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect”.

In the above verse, the friendship and comfort of family has been introduced as the result of family and this matter is more important than the legitimate possibility of sexual desire. In marital holy contract, a husband and a wife are attracted toward each other with their whole being and they become united unanimous, are in the service of each other in all aspects of the life and share thoughts, secrets and purposes with each other.

According to the mentioned verse, family life is based on two strong pillars: affection and mercy. One of the foundations of marriage is the affection and interest of a wife and a husband toward each other. They pay attention to the positive points of each other and love each other from the bottom of their heart. Each one considers the other one as a valuable blessing from God and the means of friendship, comfort, encouragement and the partner of the life and appreciates and thanks this great blessing.

Another foundation of marriage in this verse is mercy, kindness and sympathy. When one of couples recognizes the weak and need of his or her spouse, he or she looks at it with the point of view of pity and sympathy, he or she thinks that he or she is a person and human is not without any weak points as he or she is not without any weak points. He or she feels pity for his or her spouse and tries to remove weak points kindly and mildly if it is possible and if it is not possible, he or she accepts his or he spouse as he or she is and ignores his or her weak points and continues his or her life. The necessity of mercy and sympathy is that if he or she wants his or her goodness, he or she should consider the needs and desires of his or her spouse and he or she should consider for his or she spouse whatever he or she wants for himself and herself and he or she thinks about the provision of his or her happiness, comfort and relaxation. Quran has very interesting interpretation about this matter and describes a woman and a man in this way

”أُحِلَّ لَكُمْ لَيْلَةَ الصِّيَامِ الرَّفَثُ إِلَىٰ نِسَائِكُمْ ۚ هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ ۗ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ كُنتُمْ تَخْتَانُونَ أَنفُسَكُمْ فَتَابَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَعَفَا عَنكُمْ ۖ فَالْآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ ۚ وَكُلُوا وَاشْرَبُوا حَتَّىٰ يَتَبَيَّنَ لَكُمُ الْخَيْطُ الْأَبْيَضُ مِنَ الْخَيْطِ الْأَسْوَدِ مِنَ الْفَجْرِ ۖ ثُمَّ أَتِمُّوا الصِّيَامَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ ۚ وَلَا تُبَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَأَنتُمْ عَاكِفُونَ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ فَلَا تَقْرَبُوهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ”

”Permitted to you, on the night of the fasts, is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and ye are their garments. Allah knoweth what ye used to do secretly among yourselves; but He turned to you and forgave you; so now associate with them, and seek what Allah Hath ordained for you, and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears; but do not associate with your wives while ye are in retreat in the mosques. Those are Limits (set by) Allah: Approach not nigh thereto. Thus doth Allah make clear His Signs to men: that they may learn self-restraint”.

Garments cover the whole body of a person with all of its perfections, defects, good and bad features, beauties and ugliness and it prevents body from cold and hot weather and dangers, increases beauty and covers defects. Garments are the closest thing to persons and it is considered as one of basic needs. A husband and a wife are like garments toward each other and should accept the defects and perfections of each other. Moreover, they should be the guardian of each other , should make each other comfortable, should increase the beauty of each other, cover the defects of each other and should confidential and the keeper of secrets.

The Islam thinks about relationships between women and men and their family life in this way and has make them based on such foundations. The formation of such families is decent for human and provides physical and spiritual happiness in the world and the afterworld. If the basic of family is based on the foundations of faith in God, affection and sympathy, the club of family will become warm and friendly and it will be out of struggles, disagreements, divorce and disintegration of the foundation of family. Of course, it is not possible to achieve this great purpose with legal supports and we make the foundation of family based on the pillars of affection and sympathy. The best means for achieving such a purpose is preaching and inviting people toward moral values. The Islam has chosen such a way and emphasizes on the observation of morals in family. An example of that is referred; the prophet (peace of Allah be upon him and his descendants) stated ” the most absolute person from the aspect of faith in God is a person that has better features and the best persons among you are persons that have god behavior with their spouses”.

Imam Sajad (peace be upon him) stated ” ” you should know that exalted God has considered him as the means of your comfort and friendship with you and you know that he is a blessing from God for you. Therefore, cherish her and behave her mildly. Although she owes you, you should be kind toward her because she is under your control. You should provide clothes and food for her and forgive her mistakes and deviations”.

Hazrat Musa Bin Jafar (peace be upon him) stated ” the Jihad of a woman is that she should behave her husband well”. Moreover, the Islam has special attention to morals and considers the observation of moral values necessary for the health of family and the consolidation of its foundation for the health of family”.

5. The advantages and disadvantages of marriage
Maybe, marriage is considered as the most important stage of the life for each person. This phenomenon can be searched from different aspects. It should be said ” in each society, relationships of persons have a lot of effect on marriage and marriages that happen in each society are the representative of reality in each society. According to the report of the foundation of information transfer of medicine of Iran, marriage contract happened among persons in a traditional way in the past. After parents saw a girl that is qualified for their family and son had their son marry her after they proposed marriage to her. In such marriages, boys and girls did not know each other well before they got married and were not aware of personal features and behaviors of each other before marriage.

With the passing of time and communication with European countries, another type of marriage has been common in our country and it is known as ” modern marriage”. This kind of marriage is common among western countries and it is in line with the culture and traditions of such countries. After boys and girls get familiar with and have friendship with each other, they get married if they have common points with each other. It should be said that at the present time, relationship among women and men are growing in the society and it has caused that boys and girls avoid that their families choose a suitable cases for their marriage and they want to select their suitable cases among people around themselves.

Psychologist, Dr. Bireshk, says about this matter ” one of matters that we are dealing is marriage regarding social developments and changes. In two previous generations, marriages happened in a traditional way. Marriage proposals were done by families and even girls and boys did not visit each other and parents made final decision. In some cases, such marriages were successful and in some cases, they were not and couples tried to get along with each other and endured a lot of pressures. He adds ” with regarding developments that have happened, norms have changed. Youths would not like to get married without awareness and they believe that they themselves should have role in their marriage. Hence, marriage should be considered from two traditional and modern points of views because lack of attention to these two styles in the life will make the society face to basic challenge.

6. Consequences due to lack of attention to marriage
Marriage as social matter is highly influenced by dominant situations in the new society. In spite of the fact that developments in the marriage of youths are a necessary and unavoidable matter, what has made marriage different from past time in contemporary time is the rate of developments that have happened in social structures due to some changes. There is no question that new social structures have created new necessities and conditions for marriage and have caused clear distinction between ways and structures of marriage in traditional and new society. The most important consequence of mentioned developments is delay in the age of marriage of girls and boys and occurrence of unsuccessful marriages that finally lead to divorce.

Delay in marriage will make the society face to crisis from social aspect. A lot of single youths that have no economic purpose prevents from economic progress of the society. Single youths are influenced by cultural invasions immediately and they will leave negative effects in the society from cultural aspect. Persons that live individually have less effect in social useful collaborations. When marriage delays, the level of expectations that result from the increase of age and difficult norms of marriage will cause that persons have less chance for marriage. On the other hand, at the present time, since less marriages happen, it will lead to reduction of birth, reduction of population, and lack of proportion of population pyramid in next years. Effects that result from this matter include lack of desire to work, activity, study, learning, socializing and communication with peers and friends.

From the point of view of psychologists, health includes ” balance in mental and social activities”. From the point of view of experts of universal health organization, the health of mind and soul include ” the ability of appropriate relationship with others, the modification of individual and social environment and the solution of personal contrasts and desires in a logical and fair way.

Lack of attention to marriage in high ages may cause personality weakness, fear from commitment and weak points in the psychological growth of a person. Youths and adults that have not got married are always at dilemma. Most of time, they look for real and false resorts with relying on false enjoyments and pleasures; therefore, they can get rid of mental pressures. Statistics shows that single patients more than married patients are hospitalized. Maybe, the reason of this matter is that married persons are taken care at their home instead of being sent to the hospital and their wives take care of them. On the other hand, the tolerance of pain and stress becomes more through cooperation, simulation and emotional mutual support that is gained from an appropriate marriage. Searches related to this matter represent that sexual problems that are not solved mostly lead to physical, psychological tiredness and the weakness of nerve. On the other hand, married persons have different responsibilities and duties, they feel that they feel that they are needed and such a feeling prevents from physical and mental problems and decreases the possibility of its occurrence.
Marriage has an effective role in modification and the increase of personal capacity and these cause that persons can tolerate a lot of stress and they show tolerance and patience.

In contemporary world, there are no loves like eastern loves. Since boys and girls have free communications, it has made marriage as a duty, an obligation and limitation and it should be imposed on youths with moral recommendations and by force. The system of free relationships cause that boys avoid marriage and family formation and when the energy of their youth and liveliness decrease, they get married. In such time, men get married because women give birth and service them. Such an affair weakens possible marriages and causes that family cannot be based on pure love and deep affection and a husband and a wife considers his or spouse the factor of his or her happiness and they consider each other as a competitor and the factor of freedom and limitation and call each other ” jail guardians”.

The rule of creation has considered sexual attraction as the survival of human generation and the comfort of soul between two persons from different genders and any kinds of changes in this path are in contrast with natural and practical rules and violate soul comfort. The structure of human is composed of these forces and different desires and each desire should be answered in a natural and appropriate way and lack of attention to natural needs leads to mental diseases and deviation from direct road. The strongest instinct is sexual desire that can be satisfied in a decent and appropriate way. Marriage is only a right way in order to answer sexual desire in a positive way and nothing can be replaced with it.
Sexual desire is a wonderful force and it will be so difficult to subdue this force satisfaction of this desire will decrease the feeling of satisfaction of a youth from the life and lack of satisfaction from the life will be accompanied with a lot of physical and mental diseases. A person that is not satisfied of his or her life will not definitely have social and economic work and activity. When this matter becomes more painful, the young force of the society suffers from lack of satisfaction toward the life. This force will not only develop the country, it will also act in the role of destructive force. Other consequences of delay in marriage include the following cases:

1. The increase of mental, family and cultural disorders;
2. The extension of corruption and adultery;
3. Lack of order and planning in the life and organizing it;
4. The eradication of the pillars of personality and the deduction of self-esteem in youths;
5. The increase of sensitivity, depression, anxiety and anger;
6. The growth of the kinds of social crimes;
7. The increase of the rate of suicide;
8. The increase of informal marriages;
9. Lack of desire to work, activity, study and socializing with friends;
10. The increase of youths that enter jail.

Conclusion
Marital relationship is holier and more essential than kinds of relationships that approach persons to each other. The benefits of this felicitous contract include the survival of generation, heart comfort and the continuity of material and spiritual life of human. Holding marriage ceremony cause that a wife and a husband can prepare themselves for the start of a common life, consider marriage as an important affair that a lot of persons have helped in order to provide its conditions.

In marriage, some cases should be considered so that less problems happen in the path of common life and a couple and their children can have effective and successful life. According to results that are gained from this research, there is a meaningful relationship between positive social cultural consequences of marriage and reduction of negative marriages and vice versa. The guardians of this holy affair should apply more attempt in the country and act in a way that they can use marriage as an effective tool for making a society in a true path.

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