However Islam knows the marriage a sacred affair, but in today’s society, all thoughts are became material about this sacred affair. Thus they postpone their marriage with material calculation and attitude and occasionally remain bachelor to the end of the life and abandon this divine sacred affair.
Lots of family believe if they finance for their children’s university they will have better finance situation in the future due to their employment and their expense for university is not unprofitable.
But families do not believe when their children marriage, their finance will get better and god has promised this. Therefore, one of the factors of marriage age increasing and disinclination to make family is weakness of believe and lack of faith to religion significance and scruple to almighty Allah’s promises and concern about future’s events.
A man came to Imam Sadegh: sainthood told him: do you have wife? He said: No. Imam said:
I don’t like all world and whatever in it belong to me but spend one night without spouse.
It means: possessing world and whatever in it is not equal with having wife. This is the importance. Then he cited:
اَلرَّكْعَتانِ یُصَلّیهِما رَجَلٌ مُتَزَوِّجٌ اَفْضَلُ مِنْ رَجُلٍ اَعْزَبَ یَقُومُ لَیْلَةَ و یَصُومُ نَهارَهُ؛.
Two Rekat a married man is better and more valuable than a man without spouse who spend the all the night with meditation and day with fasting.
Then he donate 7 Dinars and cited: go and get married with this money. Then he said: god’s messenger (peace be upon him and his progeny) said: اِتَّخِذوا الاَْهْلَ فِاِنَّهُ اَرْزَقُ لَكُمْ؛
(Kafi, vol.5, p329, H6; Baharo’l anvar, vol.100, p43, H1) get married, it will increase your ailment.
Although finance affairs cannot be ignored, but we should know that so many deferring reason of marriage is not due to money, but because of not being contended with asset which a two-person life can be established. Finance affairs cannot hinder marriage alone. Therefore the marriage truth is not related to finance problems and affairs, then with low cost the marriage truth can be hold and a family formed.
In our logic of today’s society, we should have a sufficient and acceptable income, a reliable and honorable job to be able to marry, some go further and believe girl and boy should have a better finance situation then they are able to use it in future. But in inspiration logic and religion culture of Islam truth is something else. Marriage is one of the way of property augmentation in Islam. In other word for getting rich we should get marry. Not getting rich at first and then getting married. But marriage and starting family cause aliment augmentation and “Barekat” (bliss) and we can afford the cost expenditure and increment of costs with ailment augmentation on behalf of almighty Allah which has been promised.
Almighty Allah has promised the ailment augmentation especially for marriage; god says in Quran: «وَ لْیَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذینَ لا یَجِدُونَ نِكاحاً حَتَّى یُغْنِیَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِه(33)
Who can’t get married (not who don’t want and not try to) be chaste till god makes you needless from his munificence and bounty.
This a wrong concept that some people think marriage, add a dependent and asset decreases and etc. Unlike these people Islam knows the marriage cause of aliment and asset augment. Imam Sadegh said »
Major beneficence belong to women.
In interpreters’ point of view, the meaning of marriage failure is do not have financial ability for providing alimony which god has promised to believers that don’t afraid of poverty, he is needless.
The real Quran interpreter Imam Sadegh peace be upon him says based on this: «التَّمِیمِیِّ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ جَعْفَرٍ عَنْ أَبِیهِ عَنْ آبَائِهِ ع قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص مَنْ تَرَكَ التَّزْوِیجَ مَخَافَةَ الْعَیْلَةِ فَقَدْ أَسَاءَ ظَنَّهُ بِاللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ یَقُولُ- إِنْ یَكُونُوا فُقَراءَ یُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِه» who do not get marry due to fear of poverty, has bad surmise to god; because god says if they’re poor god will make them needless from his bounty and munificence.
This a wrong concept that some people think marriage, add a dependent and asset decreases and etc. Unlike these people Islam knows the marriage cause of aliment and asset augment. Imam Sadegh said:
Major beneficence belong to women. One day a person came to holiness messenger peace be upon him and his progeny and repined over poverty, holiness says: «تزوج، فتزوج فوسع علیه”.»
Get marry to augment your aliment.
Also a person ask Imam Sadegh peace be upon him: is narrative of “aliment will get increased with spouse and children” true? Imam peace be upon him answered: “yes”.
We conclude from this narrative that this sentence which says get marry to get rich not get rich to get married is completely correct.