With the upcoming so-called Valentine’s Day, I thought it would be important to address the topic, from a different perspective. We all are fully aware, I’m sure, of the prohibition of imitating the disbelievers, and joining in their celebrations, be it Christmas, New Year’s, Valentine’s or any other invented celebration not from the Sunnah.
Let’s tackle this celebration from a different angle. The occasion of Valentine’s day, runs deeper than a mere celebration. It is a promotion of customs that are prohibited, and alien to Islam. The Western world has embraced the idea of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships; and now many muslims are welcoming it into their lives and homes. Little do they realise the enormity of the sin behind these relationships, and the devastating consequences thereof.
Islam puts an end to a crime before it even occurs. That’s why Allah says, “and do not approach zina.” (Al-Isra 17:32) Allah warns not to even go close because He is All-Knowing, and knows that one small baby step leads to the next. It seems harmless, a look, a touch…but Allah knows, that one simple look may be the cause of a later regret. So He tells us to end it from the beginning.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “no man is alone with a (non-mahram) woman, but satan will be the third among them.” (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet has forewarned us that Shaytaan will keep us company in such a situation. And what else is Shaytaan’s aim, except to make you fall? He’s occupied that vacancy for centuries, and he’s perfected his techniques. None is insensitive to his pervious tricks. You may think that you’ve got it under control; but that is also one of Shaytaan’s tricks. Once you believe you are safe, and nothing will happen, shaytaan has you round his little finger, and he will strike from where you least expect.
In addition, what leads to haram, is haram too. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “if you were to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him that touching a woman whom he is not permitted to touch.” (At-Tabarani) This is the seriousness of the issue. Imagine an iron needle being driven into your head. Sounds painful right? Extremely painful. You can almost feel the agony, just by imagining it. The Prophet said that was better for you. Subhanallah, touching a non-mahram is a great sin!
The Prophet from his wisdom commanded us, “No person (man) should be alone with a woman except when there is a Mahram with her.” (Muslim) The Pophet was a guide for us all, he was inspired by Allah who knows teh nature of human beings and their inclinations.
People have become careless about this issue, and do not pay heed to the sayings of the Prophet. Societal and peer expectations have infiltrated the mind of the youth, so much so that it is necessary to have ‘relationship’ to be accepted amongst friends. If a person does not have a ‘valentine’ often they are deemed as ugly, or nerdy and are usually ignored.
As muslims we have higher standards. We do not need to be accepted by people, friends or society. We do not need to blend in. Rather, all we need is to attain the acceptance of Allah and His pleasure, and Allah will sort the rest out. Allah is our ‘Wakeel’ (close protecting friend), and no one else matters. Truth is, we claim Islam, and we call ourselves muslims, yet we try to fit into a non-muslim society! Why?!!! Allahu-Alam!
Be not fooled. Every part of the body is capable of falling into zina. One baby step leads to another. Shaytaan, makes you start small, until you are too deeply sucked in to even realise.
Shaytaan’s priority is to lead mankind astray, through every means possible. His primary tool is deception, by which he makes sins fair-seeming. On the Day of Judgment we will be held responsible for the actions of our entire body. Then we will have to bear the consequences of our actions, and we will be recompensed for our deeds.
May Allah keep us safe.